Thursday, August 13, 2009

I'm asking shorty 'what's up with you?'

She's asking 'what's up with me'....

My cousin got married two years ago. Let's call him "P" for pathetic. He's the type of guy that loves to be in love. He was in a steady relationship all through high school with the same girl. They broke up only because her parents wouldn't let her marry him for religious reasons. Then he promptly hooked up with his next girlfriend (whom we will name "S" for sad), not even a month after the break up. We knew this because, HE DECIDED TO INTRODUCE HER TO THE FAMILY!!!!! They were already saying that they were going to get married. So there were always questions about when they were going to get married, because his parents never really said anything and we weren't sure if we could take P&S seriously. Even right up to Meli's wedding, we kept getting acknowledgements that they were getting married. OK, great. We won't believe anything until we get the invitation. 6 months later, lo and behold, we get the invitation in the mail.
I actually wanted a guy like that, because in their brain everything is rainbow and butterflies. I mean, he would be so in love with the idea of being in love with me, he would put up with all my bullshit.
Or so I thought.
S has been emailing lately though because she's going through some issues. Apparently, P left her on Christmas Eve. That's is not common knowledge, so please people, keep it on the down low. I know it's on a blog, but you guys are special. Ok, so anyways, I'm just trying to supportive to S. Hell, I would've been supportive to P if he came to m eand told me that too. Notice the past tense of that statement. That has all changed.
Yesterday I rec'd an email from S saying she found his very public profile on Facebook and there are pictures of him and his new chick (we shall refer to her as "D" simply because I wanted to name her slut,or whore, or stupid, or bitch or anything degrading but we will stick with Dumb)that he hooked up with WHILE STILL MARRIED!!! He brought her into their matrimonial home and did things with her that only married couples do IN THEIR OWN HOME.
I feel like i'm am being pulled into this situation. I am very very opinionated and I feel like this is a bad thing that I know all this stuff about his lying, cheating scumbag ways because we do have another family wedding coming up in a month and I don't know how I will be able to keep quiet if I do see him. S has requested that I not say anything to him until the divorce is finalized, but how do I stay quiet. I really just want to smack him. I hope he doesn't show up.
I lie. I want him to show up with the chick........


Meli said...

OK so I've been thinking & I think that I've come up with some pretty good points.

1. We don't know P. We hardly ever talk to him and the only stuff we really know about him comes from his mom, so that's jaded to say the least. Think about it, when was the last time we saw him ~ 2 years ago at his wedding, before that it was at my wedding and I don't know when was the time before that. He doesn't go out of his way to talk to us or keep in touch. Basically he is a stranger.

2. Most likely he's done this before. Cheaters are creatures of habit. He probably cheated on 1st girlfriend and S when they were dating. The only reason we know about his cheating now is because S told us about it.

3. S is lonely. I feel for her, I really do, I know what it's like not to have friends but remember she rubbed us the wrong way too. We thought that she was abrasive, rude and ignorant. I am not saying that she deserved this or anything but we were never really her friends. He was the glue that held us together. When the divorce is finalized & she can't talk to us about P anymore, this 'friendship' will fade away.

5. Yes, D is a whore, slut, and all around not nice person but Karma is a bitch and she will get what's coming to her and it is not our place to bring karma down on her.

So what I am saying is some random guy that we kind of know in passing cheated on his wife, this is nothing new. We know a lot of guys who have been married for a lot longer than P that have and still are cheating on their wives. Is it right, no. Are we getting carried away with a very emotional situation, yes.

I'm done.

leeesssaaa said...

Your points are duly noted, however, honestly how many people do we actually see on a regular from that side anyways? I don't have to know you, just of you to make my opinions on you. Yes, that is judgemental, mut it's my perrogative. I don't plan on staying best friends with S, but I don't plan on never talking to her again. On FB, there are oppurtunities to say things in passing. If P has done this before and no one has ever chastised him, maybe it's time someone does. He feels like it's anatural part of being in a relationship and it's wrong! He shouldn't get away with it. And yes D is a whore and she should know that too, because she obviously missed the lesson on values and morals!

newer said...

It reminds me of BJL and her ex. I have to agree - once a cheat; always a cheat. I would stay out of it though. I've always offered help or support but that's my limit and of course. . .what goes around comes around. I've never failed to see it happen. Sometimes folks need to learn their lessons the hard way o_O

John said...

I like candy. It has nothing to do with your post, I just wanted to share that with you.